Lately, I’ve been feeling resistant to a lot of things I’m usually all in for. Take last Wednesday for example. I was resistant to going to bed at a decent hour. My alarm sounded too soon and woke me to me wanting to namaste in bed. I then felt super resistant in a meeting where we were talking in circles and not getting to the heart of the issue (perhaps a bit more valid but I had much less patience than normal).

Ironically, I decided to name this post pièce de résistance which means an outstanding item or event but that’s exactly why I liked it. Often times, when I resist something, I need it the most and maybe not admittedly knowing it at the time. What I’ve needed to take a look at is why I resist something. Is my resistance telling me that deep down I really don’t want to do something, or is it that I do want to do it but am standing in my own way?

There is still a picture of my ex on a couple of my social media platforms and I’m resisting taking them down. Fear of moving on? Yes. Does it then help make the break official? Yes. At the same time, seeing it constantly isn’t helpful either and I am reminded of a history that took some serious emotional pain to move forward and to be where I am today. Yes, I’m still hurting but am I being honest with where I am at by condoning this staying stuck status or should I help myself get un-stuck by taking down physical reminders of ouch? I’m not removing them all together. I will always have these photos and the memories, but how we represent ourselves in our social media lives are in today’s world an indicator of what’s present, where we are (almost too much so), what we’re doing and who we’re with.

Enough with resisting getting to the bottom line 😉

When you notice yourself fighting something or even someone, take a look at what’s really going on. For me, I needed some down time, some time to recharge. I also needed to notice my impatience and frustration and take a step back to communicate my needs. Expectations are largely at play in defiance. When our expectations are realistic and communicated, they are more easily met and things flow. Setting unrealistic expectations or keeping them to yourself (but maybe not allowing you to realize them) creates struggle.

A block is just that. Something you can move past just by acknowledging this block. Hey, block. Yeah, I see you there. Mind moving out of the way there, Buddy? No? Well alright, I’ll give you to the count of three and then I’m going to climb over you. Cool?

Think on it for 1…2…3…the goal being to identify the stuck and then move on with a new direction, a clear path and little insight into where you are emotionally, physically, energetically. For me, I get unstuck when I practice yoga. It’s funny that even getting to my mat was a challenge that morning. Once again, it was something to take a look at.

We’ve all heard what resists, persists (and if you haven’t, feel free to hold onto that nugget of wisdom) and goodness, it’s true. Not addressing our patterns in resistance means we have not yet addressed the source of the issue.

So, friends, be kind and true to yourself, notice when you’re not and what might be holding you back. You have every right to be the best version of yourself at all times and when something is getting in the way of it, take a peek.