I may have a few of you out there interested in an update on all things dating and happenstance.

So what’s happn’n? happn.

Funny concept it is to look down at your phone for someone you “crossed paths with” who you could meet for reals in, oh say, real life. The reality of today’s popularity with dating apps (the new dating site) set in when out with some wonderful ladies last night, the first thing out of my friend’s mouth upon entering a bachelor-clad bar was “This is analog tinder.” Is that really what meeting people organically has come down (or swiped right) to? These dating sites are now our reality and the meet-in-life is merely a distant matchmaking great-aunt. Funny even more is that we often chat for a little while (or not, you know who you are) before actually meeting the old-fashioned way for an old-fashioned.

I do think there’s still something to that natural meeting, reaching for the same ripe mango in your local Whole Foods, the guy behind you at your usual coffee place who says “make that two” and then lets the couple-y metaphors ensue before a lifetime of perfect foam and an epic story only to find out he didn’t even really like cappuccinos.

With that said, I’ve had revised thoughts on Date 1 and Date 2 (remember them?). Date 2 “ghosted” me (I learned this word from my mom…thanks, mom. I also got to use the word out-loud for the first time in previously mentioned girls-night to which I received nodding heads of understanding. Guess that’s a thing.) Bummer about Date 2 – a one liner wouldn’t have killed the guy would it? Moving on…

Date 1 and I are going out tonight. This guy really knows how to suggest a date idea that leaves it casual in tone but with the promise of the night being awesome. I’ve been really impressed so far at the diversity and destinations of our dates and getting to know him all the while has been really enjoyable. At the risk of me openly divulging my blog’s website after a cocktail (that’s all it takes these days coming back from Morocco), I’ll leave it at that for now. More to come.

Point being, this whole happn dating thing, though I want to bash it and make some over-arching statement about how it’s promoting disconnection from our surroundings and the people we could potentially encounter by looking up not down (and to some extent this is true, I will also say that if happn is finding ways to connect you with people you cross daily, why not create that liaison and meet someone you may be passing on the other side of the sidewalk unknowingly. Maybe that right person is just a turn-style away – only two seconds ahead to catch the earlier train, but you never meet (you probably catch the later train texting your best friend about a previous happn date – just me?)

Fun to think about, really. And fun to write about, let me tell ya.

I’ve got to figure out what my style is, how I choose to connect to people and what I’m looking for. In the meantime, this stuff is fun, it’s getting me back out in the dating pool (new app idea? or reality tv show? ew.) and in the meantime, life happns.